Change IS the only constant

I’ve gotten back into watching Grey’s Anatomy on Thursday nights.  This has been a decent season.  There was one episode several weeks ago that I luckily had DVR’d.  I caught myself rewinding the last 2 minutes over and over again to hear Dr. Meredith Grey’s voiceover talk about  the concept of change.  I’ve included it below:

“When we say things like, ‘people don’t change’, it drives scientists crazy.  Because change is literally the only constant in all of science.  Energy, matter – it’s always changing……morphing……merging…….growing……dying.  It’s the way people try NOT to change that is unnatural – the way we cling to what things were instead of letting them be what they are; the way we cling to old memories instead of forming new ones; the way we insist on believing, despite every scientific indication, that anything in this lifetime is permanent.  Change IS constant.  How we experience change……..that’s up to us.  It can feel like death, or it can feel like a second chance at life.  If we open our fingers, loosen our grips, go with it, it can feel like pure adrenaline.  Like at any moment, we can have another chance at life…….like at any moment, we can be born all over again”.

I thought this was beautiful, and very true.  Why is it that we resist what IS?  I am guilty of this like 99% of the population.  But I do strive to go with the flow……to avoid fighting with myself and paddling upstream.  It’s so much easier to let go……but letting go, often DOES mean to let something in you die, in order to give birth to something else.  And, like Dr. Grey stated so eloquently, we can either keep focused on the death or feel the adrenaline from experiencing a new life.

10 thoughts on “Change IS the only constant

  1. Very inspirational words to consider. I’ve always been of the opinion that people don’t really change. In light of this thoughts, I may have to reconsider my opinion.

    • Leann, I definitely thought the same for a long time. But now, as a physical therapist, I see how peoples’ life views/personalities morph through their life experiences – for me, it’s about observing how others handle trauma in their lives, both physically and emotionally. I think everyday we’re given a choice of whether or not to embrace change or push it away. Thanks for your comment. -deepali

  2. Hey Deepali,
    I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog. I’m commenting on an older post, on change, because it is my favorite, and so true for me! I also often work hard to resist change- which is often just a waste of energy and angst. One of my favorite quotes is “Grant me the strength to change the things I can, the courage to accept the things I cannot, and the wisdom to know the difference.” The second and third items are really tough for me, thanks for the nice reminder about letting go. Hope you are well!

    • Christina, thanks so much for your feedback. I agree, it’s one of the hardest things to do in life. I continue to struggle with this myself. I have read the quote you wrote as well, and also try to live by that. I think when we use that wisdom (and we all have it!), we can use our mental energy in a more productive way!

  3. I totally agree, Deepali! Being in the field of HR, I have always said the same thing in the workplace. There’s a lot of focus on “change management”. I think that’s a faulty phrase because, as you said, change in inevitable. You can’t manage change per se. We should focus instead on “transition management” – making sure the transition into the changed event is handled well and completely.
    You’re an inspiration. Keep on writing, and dreaming, and hoping, and running…. and changing. =)

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