Shining Our Light

I am always amazed when we discuss a topic on our site, and then I see that same topic addressed somewhere else. I really do believe it’s put out in the forefront of my mind and thoughts, as soon as I share something with all of you.

We ended our discussion last week with the kriya of letting go. I had mentioned that it’s one of those life lessons that continues to show up in my life over and over again. I know it is partly because I continue to struggle with it. When I opened up my “Daily Om” devotion this morning, I came across the topic of Shedding Light on Ourselves. Reading the words of wisdom kind of jolted me. It was on the topic of letting go, but more importantly it gave us insight into the fundamental reason for our resistence to letting go – the idea that “there may be a deep seated part in us that doesn’t want to heal”.

It’s true, many times we just want to look away. It’s easier and less painful. The article woke me up to the idea that holding onto something that no longer serves us is really an illusion we create. The circumstance has usually already shifted by the time our mind catches up to the reality. And, by that time, all we have left to face is the truth. It is certainly a process and we heal in stages, but the first step is to want to heal.

Please click the link above to read this insightful article.

Deepali’s Piece of Wellness: As you begin this week, can you slowly bring to your awareness the anchors in your life that are holding you back? What would it take for you to risk letting go and allowing more light to shine through you?

Going with the Flow

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am not the kind of person who takes a passive approach to life.  I’m someone who creates a vision, sets goals, and focuses on pressing toward them.  I believe in sitting in the driver’s seat of life.  I believe in never taking “no” from someone who doesn’t have the power to tell you “yes”.  I am one of those people who will keep pressing on and on and, oftentimes, continue holding on during times I know I just need to quit.  I don’t mean quitting on my goals, but knowing when a situation has changed enough and perhaps leading me toward another path.   

Letting go, is one of the kriyas that I have long struggled with.  I’m sure there are many of you, like me, who feel the need to control everything in your life.  In fact, many of us try to manage the outcomes of our lives so much that we actually get in the way and sabotage the good that is flowing toward us.  Sometimes, our peripheral vision has more to show us if we just take our blinders off.  It opens us up to a bigger picture and opportunities that lie in the background. 

So, yes we need to continue to set goals or resolutions in the new year, but remember we always have the choice to re-evaluate and determine what is working for us.  When we know we’ve reached a dead-end, it’s best to back up and take a U-turn.  And an even better strategy other times?  Let go, take the passenger seat, and allow a greater force to guide us toward another destination.  I continue to learn this.

Have a Great Weekend!  

Warm Holiday Wishes

I wanted to take this moment to extend my warmest wishes to all my readers and their families for a happy holiday season.  I am truly grateful to have had the opportunity to create this site in 2011.  You have all given me so much inspiration with your visits, comments and support to keep the Wellness Kriya site alive!  My hope is that it has been a little sanctuary to visit – a place to be inspired, motivated, and empowered to live your life with the highest wellness quotient.  We each have tremendous strength within us to navigate through all of life’s challenges and enough grace to relish in the goodness of it.  

For 2012, I challenge YOU to take risks in your life that expand you further than you thought possible, fuel your soul by exercising your mind and body, live authentically in the present moment, know that change is inevitable, and learn to embrace it by letting go of all that does not serve you, believe in spirit and be encouraged that something larger is working on you, through you and for you, be grateful for all that flows into your life.  May your lives continue to flourish in unimaginable ways!

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to You! 

Knowing your Truth

“The truth shall set you free”.  We have all heard this phrase before.  I wouldn’t say I am a dishonest person, but perhaps I’m not as forthcoming or as open as I want to be.  I tend to be private and keep a lot inside.  I’m like many people who need to process situations before I share. 

Many times we hold things inside, because we’re afraid of being judged – especially by those we respect.  This was my situation.  There had been something I wanted to share with a good friend of mine for some time, but I couldn’t strike up the courage to do so.  Today, after a slow jog and spending a few minutes quieting my mind, I decided I would face it.  I wrote a long email and told her what I needed to tell her.  The result was a sense of freedom.  I felt lighter.  I felt relieved.  More than anything, I felt I was no longer holding a big load on my shoulder.  It was something I wanted to release and finally did. 

What I realized was that I was really holding back the truth from myself.  In order to let go of what I needed to let go of in my mind, I had to face the honest truth.  When I faced it, I was able to accept it.  And when I accepted it, I was able to release it.  Of course, depending on the situation, this can be a long process, and it’s important to take the time you need to process.  Remember, though, that we all judge ourselves harsher than anyone else in the world.  We fear being judged and being deemed unworthy.  When we hold back, we rob people the opportunity to really see the essense of who we are.  And maybe we do that, because we don’t always like who we are.  Or perhaps, we’re not where we want to be in life.  Or maybe, we feel like we’ve let others down. 

The real truth is that we all want to be validated.  We want to be seen, heard, and acknowledged.  I ended up having a great conversation with my friend today.  She was, in fact, able to share with me some similar experiences she had this past year.  Had I not opened up, I’m not sure she would have either.  Facing our truths allowed us both to free our minds today.

Deepali’s Piece of Wellness:  Are there situations in your life that you need to face and accept?  Are you denying what is true for you?  Facing your truth will allow for a deeper connection with yourself and in all of your relationships.

More Life Lessons from an African Safari

No other place in the world has brought me such a feeling of closeness to life and the earth as when I was in Africa.  There was a feeling of connectedness to land and life in its beginnings.  It was the simplicity with which all creatures lived their lives.  Being on safari, I learned a few lessons from several of the animals.   *Click on the pictures to obtain larger images.

1.  Zebra.  I remember a pair of lions that were crouching in the grassy brush, plotting an attack on a herd of zebra.  They each scoped out a different direction.  I had to put my camera down and trade it for my binoculars to observe this rare opportunity.  To the dismay of the lions, the intuitiveness of one of the zebra pulled the herd in another direction and they all ran off.  There was no way for the zebra to actually see the lions from where he stood.  He just sensed it as I saw his ears twitch, his body contract and his face become more alert.  The lesson:  Don’t discount the power of your intuition.  Sometimes, that is the only guidance you receive to make a smart decision.

2.  Lion.  Though the example above showed how intuition can help guide one species, it shows the perseverence of another.  I doubt the pair of lions decided after that defeat to give up hunting.  Once again, it is survival of the fittest.  They must continue to try again in order to live.  The lesson:  Success only comes from perseverence.  Failures are the catalyst, or the fuel, that we can use to our advantage if we choose. 

3.  Cheetah.  The cheetah is a solitary animal, meaning it hunts and gathers on its own.  Though it is one of the fastest animals, it is also the most vulnerable.  If it gets sick or injured, it will likely starve to death.  The lesson:  You may think you can fly solo in life, but allowing others to lend a helping hand on your journey can make the flight smoother.

4.  Elephant.  The African elephant is the largest land mammal in the world.  When I looked into the eyes of these soulful creatures, I saw peace.  They are herbivores and pretty much stay out of the way of other animals.  And because of their size, they are rarely preyed upon.   Despite weighing between 6-7 tons, they walk quietly and are not aggresive animals.  The lesson:  No matter how powerful you are (literally or figuratively), true respect is earned through humility.

5.  Leopard.  We were lucky to see leopards on our safari, as they are usually camouflauged in trees in a distance.  They use trees to their advantage, as they are able to see an aerial view of the surroundings below.  They can take inventory and decide when to make a move.  The lesson:  Have a vision, do the research, and then act.  Your life depends on it.

I think animals have a lot to teach us.  So many of our wellness concepts are interwoven in them.  We may be more advanced from an evolutionary perspective, but sometimes there is much to learn from our primal predecessors.

Magnify Your Vision

We spoke yesterday about re-creating our dreams, or the mental images we hold in our minds.  In order to get what we want out of life, we have to have a roadmap.  The problem for many of us is that the map is not clear enough.  As we think about where we envision ourselves in our lives, oftentimes there is a mini-movie that runs through our heads.  Some of these movies are blurry and on mute.  Others depict a clear picture, with high volume.  The question is, “how can we sustain and attain the clear pictures?”  I came up with a few tactics that have worked for me and others I know.

1.  Be very clear in what you want and where you see yourself.   I think it helps to write it down.  I suggested in a previous post to write out 30 things you want to be, do, and have – an exercise I learned from Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles.  It’s a great exercise and forces you to become absolutely clear in what you want in each facet of your life.

2.  Develop daily affirmations or mantras.  You can infuse the things you wrote down above into your mind by affirming them in the present moment.  For example, if you want to run your first marathon and are beginning to train, you can say to yourself, “I am feeling healthy and alive as I cross the finish line of my marathon on January 1, 2012!”.  Make it specific and have a timeline.

3.  Create a vision board.  This is pretty powerful.  You can use a cork board and pin pictures of the life you want.  Maybe you want to travel to a particular country or envision yourself in a particular type of home.  Perhaps, you are longing to spend more time cultivating your hobby – whatever it is, bring your mental images to life by cutting out photos that depict the things you want.

4.  Be willing to do the work.  Nothing can come your way without your sustained efforts.  You have to be willing to work toward your goals diligently.  If you’re not motivated to do the work, maybe you need to re-evaluate your vision.  This isn’t a bad thing.  It allows you to become honest and clear with yourself. 

5.  Let go.  After doing everything you can, you have to let go and trust in the Universe or God – whatever the Higher Power is for you.  The way in which your desires eventually manifest may involve many twists and turns.  You have to leave room for growth and learning to occur along the way.

You may not know all the right steps to take on your  journey, but at least take the first step in magnifying your vision.  Maybe, like me, you are in the midst of re-creating a new vision for your life.  Don’t get hung up on how you will get there.  Just stay focused, do what’s in your control, and trust that you are moving closer to vision.

Dreaming a New Dream

The other day I attempted to console a good friend who questioned the next step to take in her life.  She had recently come short of passing an exam she needed to pass in order to work in her profession.   The reality of the present situation forced her to question her existing vision and life path.  Does she continue to work toward achieving her dream profession?  Does she take the current circumstance as a sign to take a detour and carve a new path?  Does she still feel passion for the profession in the midst of discouragement?  It got me thinking about our vision – not just the picture of our immediate stimuli, but the greater vision we hold for ourselves.  How do we navigate through the maze of life when the things we envisioned for ourselves do not manifest as we thought and hoped they would?  How do we re-create our vision and begin to dream a new dream?

Let’s face it, life is full of challenges.  Things may not always go as planned, but it is important to have a roadmap.  I have always been a big believer in creating dreams or visions for my life.  There is no way to achieve the things you desire unless you first create a mental image of it in your mind.  I think we all do this to some degree.  We do this when we decide on a career path to take, or when we visualize a life partner, or when we imagine our dreamhome.  Many times during our journey, we hit roadblocks – you don’t get the job you want, you go through a divorce, you lose your dream home to another buyer.  What do you do next? 

The thing about creating visions is that they can always be re-created.  Part of our own roadblock is the attachment we hold to the old vision.  It takes a lot of strength to let go and surrender to the idea that another path is not only possible, but it can be greater and more fulfilling than you could have even envisioned for yourself.  You may still achieve all that you desire, but it may not be in the way or in the timeframe you thought.  Perhaps, during the process, you may discover you have a new desire.

Oftentimes, the reality of our situation doesn’t make sense to us.  It’s not supposed to.  Steve Jobs, in a speech he gave to Stanford University Graduates in 2005, states, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever”.

Remember, life doesn’t end when it doesn’t go as planned.  The most successful people will tell you that the times in which they felt lost or as though they had failed, were actually the catalyst for creating, or re-creating a better dream and a brighter future.  Be willing to take the risk in creating and re-creating! 

Deepali’s Piece of Wellness:  Have you given up on your dreams, because life hasn’t turned out as you expected?  Can you start creating a new vision for yourself today?  What does it look like?  **More tomorrow on how to get clarity on a new vision!

The Freedom in Letting Go

A beautiful passage to think about as you start your weekend……..

“To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore.  It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. 

Letting go isn’t about winning or losing.  It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. 

Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness.  It’s not about giving in or giving up.  It’s not about loss and it’s not about defeat. 

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To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on.  It is having an open mind and confidence in the future. 

Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. 

To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow.  It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. 

Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. 

Letting go is growing up.  It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy.
To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.” -ANONYMOUS

Have a Great Weekend!

What are You Holding Onto?

We talked Monday about letting go and why we feel a need to hold on to things/people that don’t serve us.  I mentioned that I thought it’s partly a result of familiarity, obligation, and/or comfort.   We start identifying ourselves with the things/people to which we associate.  Here are some common hindrances to life that we need to let go:

1.  THE PAST.  This is probably the heaviest bag we carry around our lives.  The truth is that the past is gone.  It’s over.  Any desire to change the past is futile.  Bringing the past into the present robs you of your future.  Dr. Lawrence Wilson of the Center for Development states, “Your future will find you if you let go of your past”.      

2.  EXCUSES.  We need to take 100% responsibility for our own lives.  Excuses are just another way we deny ourselves the truth.  It’s easy  to blame everything and everyone on our circumstances.  Jack Canfield talks about a great formula that addresses this: Event + Response = Outcome.  Sometimes, you create the events that lead to an outcome, sometimes you don’t.  If you don’t like your outcome, change your response.  This is always in your control.  Let go of self-defeating responses.

3.  UNHEALTHY HABITS.  They may get you through life temporarily, but often they will lead to chaos.  Make a commitment to let go of the habits that get in the way of your life.  We all need different things.  Perhaps you trade in fast food for healthier options, maybe you enlist a buddy to work-out with, or talk with your doctor about smoking or alcohol cessation.  In order to live the life you want, you have to let go of habits that hinder you from moving forward.

4.  BELIEFS AND ATTITUDES.  We all know that our beliefs and attitudes dictate what we manifest in our lives.  When we fill our minds with thoughts like fear, resentment, judgment, or negativity, that is exactly what we bring to our actions.  It actually becomes an anchor that holds us back.  I find that it’s great to have a list of positive affirmations. These are positive action words or phrases you can repeat to yourself, like a mantra, or you can post them up as a visual reminder.  I do this a lot.  When you see and hear positive words often enough, they become interwoven in your brain. 

5.  PEOPLE.  To reiterate what we discussed on Monday, we have to be mindful of the people we allow into our worlds.  When we can be true to ourselves and honest about what healthy relationships feel like to us, we will become clear of those we need to let go.

The common thread of letting go is freedom and peace.  Although, it may be temporarily painful, it’s the only way for us to keep moving, growing, learning, and easing into life’s current.  There are opportunities waiting for you on the other side.

Tuning into Your Vibrational Frequency

Each human being brings to their life a certain type of energy.  It’s called your vibrational frequency, aura, or life force.  When we come into contact with people in our lives, our energies are transferred to one another.  We can either be in sync or we can be pulled in opposing directions.  There are those people in our lives that fuel our energy – those to whom we feel drawn, excited to be around, connected with on a deeper level.  There are also those people that slowly drain our energy by bringing us down, taking us for granted, or devaluing who we are.  Essentially, the people we allow into our lives can either fill up our wellness tank or drain it.

This past week, I made the conscious decision to let go of someone in my life.  I realized, and continue to realize, that energy from this person has been toxic to my wellbeing for some time now.  Oftentimes, we confuse the brief moments of gratification with long-term sustainence.  How many of you still associate with a friend that used to be supportive but who now brings your mood down each time you talk?  Are you subjecting yourself to spending time with a family member who is constantly critical toward you or life?  Are you still  in a relationship with someone that is no longer fulfilling and depleting the essense of who you are?  Why do we hold on? 

We hold on for three reasons that came to my mind:  familiarity, obligation, and/or comfort.  As I have said in previous posts, it is so much easier to deny yourself the truth.  It’s easier to hold onto something or someone tightly, pretend that the circumstances have not changed, and go through life with a depleted energy reserve.   

Your life is special.  Your life is unique.  It is yours to live with authenticity and value.  You choose who you invite into your world.  Do those who you invite support you and lift your spirit?  Do they fuel your energy?  Letting go of the people in your life that no longer serve your best interest can be difficult.  After all, at one time they may have held some purpose and meaning.  You may have connected with them, because they had something to teach you.  Perhaps, you have taken heed to the lesson and now the energy has shifted.  It doesn’t mean you stop caring.  It doesn’t mean you love any less. But it does mean that you value yourself and your wellbeing.  It means you are true to your heart and conscientious of where you put your time and energy.  I am still learning this, along with you.

Deepali’s Piece of Wellness:   As you think about the vibrational frequencies that surround you this week, think about what sort of energy you exude to those around you.  Are you tuning into a frequency you wish to emit?  Think about the people, things, or ideas you may need to let go in order to create a clearer picture for your life.

More on Letting Go Wednesday!