The other day I attempted to console a good friend who questioned the next step to take in her life. She had recently come short of passing an exam she needed to pass in order to work in her profession. The reality of the present situation forced her to question her existing vision and life path. Does she continue to work toward achieving her dream profession? Does she take the current circumstance as a sign to take a detour and carve a new path? Does she still feel passion for the profession in the midst of discouragement? It got me thinking about our vision – not just the picture of our immediate stimuli, but the greater vision we hold for ourselves. How do we navigate through the maze of life when the things we envisioned for ourselves do not manifest as we thought and hoped they would? How do we re-create our vision and begin to dream a new dream?
Let’s face it, life is full of challenges. Things may not always go as planned, but it is important to have a roadmap. I have always been a big believer in creating dreams or visions for my life. There is no way to achieve the things you desire unless you first create a mental image of it in your mind. I think we all do this to some degree. We do this when we decide on a career path to take, or when we visualize a life partner, or when we imagine our dreamhome. Many times during our journey, we hit roadblocks – you don’t get the job you want, you go through a divorce, you lose your dream home to another buyer. What do you do next?
The thing about creating visions is that they can always be re-created. Part of our own roadblock is the attachment we hold to the old vision. It takes a lot of strength to let go and surrender to the idea that another path is not only possible, but it can be greater and more fulfilling than you could have even envisioned for yourself. You may still achieve all that you desire, but it may not be in the way or in the timeframe you thought. Perhaps, during the process, you may discover you have a new desire.
Oftentimes, the reality of our situation doesn’t make sense to us. It’s not supposed to. Steve Jobs, in a speech he gave to Stanford University Graduates in 2005, states, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever”.
Remember, life doesn’t end when it doesn’t go as planned. The most successful people will tell you that the times in which they felt lost or as though they had failed, were actually the catalyst for creating, or re-creating a better dream and a brighter future. Be willing to take the risk in creating and re-creating!
Deepali’s Piece of Wellness: Have you given up on your dreams, because life hasn’t turned out as you expected? Can you start creating a new vision for yourself today? What does it look like? **More tomorrow on how to get clarity on a new vision!