Sometimes, a “sweet surrender is all I have to give”, as per Sarah McLachlan’s hit song. It is oftentimes, the best gift to offer the universe. For some reason, we all have this sense that if we hold on to an idea, a person, an emotion, we will continue to move forward. I’ve found that actually the reverse is true. We have to ask ourselves, “what are we really holding onto anyway?” Often, it is something that has occurred in the past that doesn’t serve us in the present. It is an anchor that holds us back. I think it is one of the most difficult kriyas that we must implement in our lives in order to fuel our happiness and peace.
I struggle with this concept a lot myself. It’s a need for control and avoidance of pain. It’s so much easier to just hold on tightly to something, pretend that the circumstances have not changed, and continue to live in the past. But the result is that you suck the life out of what you grip onto so tightly, and in that process, end up holding onto something that is long gone. You say to yourself that you miss the potential of what was and what could have been in your life. But truthfully, the “potential” of something is different than the “reality” of it. In order to open yourself to the beauty that awaits you in your life, you must let go of the concepts and people that do not serve you. There is a gift in remaining present in the moment. There is a freedom there to go in any direction. And only then, can all the good in life come to you and through you. Dr. Lawrence Wilson of the Center of Development states, “Your future will find you, if you let go of your past”.
Deepali’s piece of wellness: We may have control over our sails, but no control over the direction the wind blows. Let go and see where it takes you.
Deepali, this piece was so well written and really resonated with me. You are a prime example of living this concept. I’ve seen you, like a dandilion tuft, cling to the past…and over time, you’ve gradually let go. I am happy to see you as you begin to soar in the breeze. Let it take you away.
I love your analogy with the sailboat and wind. I am going to put this on my fridge and live with a little more faith and a little less control. Thank you for helping me in my journey. You are an inspiration!
Anita, thanks for your feedback. It is definitely a continuous cycle of learning. I’m happy that you are utilizing the little pieces of wellness!
deepali, your blogs are so inspirational and so authentically you. i just love who you are. ps- sarah mclachlan…will always remember seeing that amazing show with you! i look forward to reading more blogs!
Thanks, Minda! I have appreciated all your insight and support over the past year. The blog is full of everything I’ve learned from those around me…including Sarah 🙂 Definitely a show to remember.