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We spoke yesterday about re-creating our dreams, or the mental images we hold in our minds. In order to get what we want out of life, we have to have a roadmap. The problem for many of us is that the map is not clear enough. As we think about where we envision ourselves in our lives, oftentimes there is a mini-movie that runs through our heads. Some of these movies are blurry and on mute. Others depict a clear picture, with high volume. The question is, “how can we sustain and attain the clear pictures?” I came up with a few tactics that have worked for me and others I know.
1. Be very clear in what you want and where you see yourself. I think it helps to write it down. I suggested in a previous post to write out 30 things you want to be, do, and have – an exercise I learned from Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles. It’s a great exercise and forces you to become absolutely clear in what you want in each facet of your life.
2. Develop daily affirmations or mantras. You can infuse the things you wrote down above into your mind by affirming them in the present moment. For example, if you want to run your first marathon and are beginning to train, you can say to yourself, “I am feeling healthy and alive as I cross the finish line of my marathon on January 1, 2012!”. Make it specific and have a timeline.
3. Create a vision board. This is pretty powerful. You can use a cork board and pin pictures of the life you want. Maybe you want to travel to a particular country or envision yourself in a particular type of home. Perhaps, you are longing to spend more time cultivating your hobby – whatever it is, bring your mental images to life by cutting out photos that depict the things you want.
4. Be willing to do the work. Nothing can come your way without your sustained efforts. You have to be willing to work toward your goals diligently. If you’re not motivated to do the work, maybe you need to re-evaluate your vision. This isn’t a bad thing. It allows you to become honest and clear with yourself.
5. Let go. After doing everything you can, you have to let go and trust in the Universe or God – whatever the Higher Power is for you. The way in which your desires eventually manifest may involve many twists and turns. You have to leave room for growth and learning to occur along the way.
You may not know all the right steps to take on your journey, but at least take the first step in magnifying your vision. Maybe, like me, you are in the midst of re-creating a new vision for your life. Don’t get hung up on how you will get there. Just stay focused, do what’s in your control, and trust that you are moving closer to vision.
The other day I attempted to console a good friend who questioned the next step to take in her life. She had recently come short of passing an exam she needed to pass in order to work in her profession. The reality of the present situation forced her to question her existing vision and life path. Does she continue to work toward achieving her dream profession? Does she take the current circumstance as a sign to take a detour and carve a new path? Does she still feel passion for the profession in the midst of discouragement? It got me thinking about our vision – not just the picture of our immediate stimuli, but the greater vision we hold for ourselves. How do we navigate through the maze of life when the things we envisioned for ourselves do not manifest as we thought and hoped they would? How do we re-create our vision and begin to dream a new dream?
Let’s face it, life is full of challenges. Things may not always go as planned, but it is important to have a roadmap. I have always been a big believer in creating dreams or visions for my life. There is no way to achieve the things you desire unless you first create a mental image of it in your mind. I think we all do this to some degree. We do this when we decide on a career path to take, or when we visualize a life partner, or when we imagine our dreamhome. Many times during our journey, we hit roadblocks – you don’t get the job you want, you go through a divorce, you lose your dream home to another buyer. What do you do next?
The thing about creating visions is that they can always be re-created. Part of our own roadblock is the attachment we hold to the old vision. It takes a lot of strength to let go and surrender to the idea that another path is not only possible, but it can be greater and more fulfilling than you could have even envisioned for yourself. You may still achieve all that you desire, but it may not be in the way or in the timeframe you thought. Perhaps, during the process, you may discover you have a new desire.
Oftentimes, the reality of our situation doesn’t make sense to us. It’s not supposed to. Steve Jobs, in a speech he gave to Stanford University Graduates in 2005, states, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever”.
Remember, life doesn’t end when it doesn’t go as planned. The most successful people will tell you that the times in which they felt lost or as though they had failed, were actually the catalyst for creating, or re-creating a better dream and a brighter future. Be willing to take the risk in creating and re-creating!
Deepali’s Piece of Wellness: Have you given up on your dreams, because life hasn’t turned out as you expected? Can you start creating a new vision for yourself today? What does it look like? **More tomorrow on how to get clarity on a new vision!
A beautiful passage to think about as you start your weekend……..
“To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret.
Letting go isn’t about winning or losing. It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past.
Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It’s not about giving in or giving up. It’s not about loss and it’s not about defeat.
To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.
Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing.
To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain.
Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving.
Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy.
To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.” -ANONYMOUS
Have a Great Weekend!
We talked Monday about letting go and why we feel a need to hold on to things/people that don’t serve us. I mentioned that I thought it’s partly a result of familiarity, obligation, and/or comfort. We start identifying ourselves with the things/people to which we associate. Here are some common hindrances to life that we need to let go:
1. THE PAST. This is probably the heaviest bag we carry around our lives. The truth is that the past is gone. It’s over. Any desire to change the past is futile. Bringing the past into the present robs you of your future. Dr. Lawrence Wilson of the Center for Development states, “Your future will find you if you let go of your past”.
2. EXCUSES. We need to take 100% responsibility for our own lives. Excuses are just another way we deny ourselves the truth. It’s easy to blame everything and everyone on our circumstances. Jack Canfield talks about a great formula that addresses this: Event + Response = Outcome. Sometimes, you create the events that lead to an outcome, sometimes you don’t. If you don’t like your outcome, change your response. This is always in your control. Let go of self-defeating responses.
3. UNHEALTHY HABITS. They may get you through life temporarily, but often they will lead to chaos. Make a commitment to let go of the habits that get in the way of your life. We all need different things. Perhaps you trade in fast food for healthier options, maybe you enlist a buddy to work-out with, or talk with your doctor about smoking or alcohol cessation. In order to live the life you want, you have to let go of habits that hinder you from moving forward.
4. BELIEFS AND ATTITUDES. We all know that our beliefs and attitudes dictate what we manifest in our lives. When we fill our minds with thoughts like fear, resentment, judgment, or negativity, that is exactly what we bring to our actions. It actually becomes an anchor that holds us back. I find that it’s great to have a list of positive affirmations. These are positive action words or phrases you can repeat to yourself, like a mantra, or you can post them up as a visual reminder. I do this a lot. When you see and hear positive words often enough, they become interwoven in your brain.
5. PEOPLE. To reiterate what we discussed on Monday, we have to be mindful of the people we allow into our worlds. When we can be true to ourselves and honest about what healthy relationships feel like to us, we will become clear of those we need to let go.
The common thread of letting go is freedom and peace. Although, it may be temporarily painful, it’s the only way for us to keep moving, growing, learning, and easing into life’s current. There are opportunities waiting for you on the other side.
Each human being brings to their life a certain type of energy. It’s called your vibrational frequency, aura, or life force. When we come into contact with people in our lives, our energies are transferred to one another. We can either be in sync or we can be pulled in opposing directions. There are those people in our lives that fuel our energy – those to whom we feel drawn, excited to be around, connected with on a deeper level. There are also those people that slowly drain our energy by bringing us down, taking us for granted, or devaluing who we are. Essentially, the people we allow into our lives can either fill up our wellness tank or drain it.
This past week, I made the conscious decision to let go of someone in my life. I realized, and continue to realize, that energy from this person has been toxic to my wellbeing for some time now. Oftentimes, we confuse the brief moments of gratification with long-term sustainence. How many of you still associate with a friend that used to be supportive but who now brings your mood down each time you talk? Are you subjecting yourself to spending time with a family member who is constantly critical toward you or life? Are you still in a relationship with someone that is no longer fulfilling and depleting the essense of who you are? Why do we hold on?
We hold on for three reasons that came to my mind: familiarity, obligation, and/or comfort. As I have said in previous posts, it is so much easier to deny yourself the truth. It’s easier to hold onto something or someone tightly, pretend that the circumstances have not changed, and go through life with a depleted energy reserve.
Your life is special. Your life is unique. It is yours to live with authenticity and value. You choose who you invite into your world. Do those who you invite support you and lift your spirit? Do they fuel your energy? Letting go of the people in your life that no longer serve your best interest can be difficult. After all, at one time they may have held some purpose and meaning. You may have connected with them, because they had something to teach you. Perhaps, you have taken heed to the lesson and now the energy has shifted. It doesn’t mean you stop caring. It doesn’t mean you love any less. But it does mean that you value yourself and your wellbeing. It means you are true to your heart and conscientious of where you put your time and energy. I am still learning this, along with you.
Deepali’s Piece of Wellness: As you think about the vibrational frequencies that surround you this week, think about what sort of energy you exude to those around you. Are you tuning into a frequency you wish to emit? Think about the people, things, or ideas you may need to let go in order to create a clearer picture for your life.
More on Letting Go Wednesday!
See this picture. I’m ready to kick back, relax and watch the ocean waves crash onto the beach. But wait, I’m at home, landlocked in Missouri. No ocean for miles around.
I am thrilled to introduce Sharon Hohler to Wellness Kriya this week as our guest contributer! Sharon will be contributing to the kriya of EXERCISE THE MIND AND BODY this week. I loved her angle on the value of laughter…..I’m certain you will, too!
“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.” — Sarah Ban Breathnach
We are all born with a sense of wonderment as we explore our surroundings. Children look at the world with awe, excitement, and curiosity. They relish in the simple day-to-day aspects of living. As you start your weekend, look through the eyes of that inner child, noticing the gifts that surround you. Make it a point to feel gratitude for the little wonders of your day. It will fuel your wellness tank!
Have a great weekend!